5 Things I’ve Learned From a 5-Year Relationship
As my fiancé and I approach our 5-year dating anniversary and the one-month mark until our wedding day, I thought I’d share a few things I’ve learned since we started this lifelong journey together.
Five years have flown by, but have simultaneously felt like a lifetime (maybe because we’ve been crushing on each other since the third grade!?).
As I reflect on the past few years, I can confidently say that I’ve learned a lot about relationships and what true love feels like. Here is just a sneak peek at a few of these things:
1. Everything in your life leads you right to where you’re supposed to be
I wish I could tell this to everyone going through heartbreak right now. Everything in life truly happens for a reason, and even if you don’t see it now, the heartbreak you’re experiencing is leading you to exactly where you’re supposed to be; the difficulties and the devastation you experience in your lifetime will prepare you for the greatest love of your life.
Hang in there. The clouds will clear soon, and you’ll see why you had to go through the ick.
2. You can’t hide your flaws for very long, but if your SO is your soulmate, he or she will love you despite
Ha! You can try to hide your bad habits or sassy attitude from your significant other, but at some point these things are bound to come to light. There’s no hiding things from each other, especially once you live together.
If you’ve found the right person, though, he or she will love you despite these flaws. (My fiancé found out very quick that I am NOT a morning person. Don’t talk to me in the morning. Don’t even try. Right, Jarrod? Yet he still loves me, even though I’m a cranky monster when I wake up. Love you, Jare Bear!)
3. It’s okay to need space sometimes
You have to take time for yourselves and do your own things every once in awhile. Space keeps the relationship healthy. You do your thing, and I’ll do my thing (bonus points if you can remain in the same room though!). Don’t lose yourself in the relationship – make time for what makes YOU happy.
4. It’s the little things that mean the most
Never stop doing the cute little things that you did for each other when you first started dating. These are the things that truly mean the most, (especially when you’re 5 years into the relationship, and the excitement of a new relationship is longgggg gone).
A simple love note on a post-it, a back scratch that you didn’t ask for, or breakfast in bed can give your SO some major butterflies and heart eyes.
5. Trust should come easy
Who knew that it was possible to go to bed at night without having to question your SO’s love for you? The right person for you will make you feel protected, comfortable, and secure – these feelings are possible, and when you feel them, you’ve found a keeper!